10yr anniversary disaster?

If you are going to work on your marriage, you need to forgive, forget, and work on the present and future with your husband. I know that is not easy and you can never completely forget how he betrayed you, but if you are going to stay with him, you have to fake it sometimes. Repairing and working on your marriage means you should go on vacations, make love, and enjoy each other's company. You can't work on your marriage if you are withholding forgiveness. He can't make what he did go away. It is always going to be there. Forgive him and rebuild your marriage, or leave him so you both can move on. After 2 years, you should be coming to terms with things by now. If you can't, admit it and move on.